I read a lot of interviews and I’ve done a bunch myself. My least favorite question of a woman is this one: Do you think motherhood has changed you? Because, really? How can it not change the person you are? You may think it doesn’t. You may hope it doesn’t. You may be in denial about it. But you are a changed person once you take on the role of being a parent. Even if you are the most selfish human being in the world (nothing wrong with that), a child requires an active participation from you that never existed within you. A child can draw out the cranky you. A child can tap into your most impatient you. A child can touch you in the way no one else has. A child can do to you what you didn’t expect and don’t want. But, and this is key, a child changes you. So please, stop asking that question. It’s reductive, it’s ignorant, it’s dismissive. If you want to know what happens in a woman’s life once she takes on the role of mother, ask her how she’s feeling, in that moment. Because, there? That’s the most interesting answer you’ll get. (2/16/17 Repost).
Uma Thurman: “He used to spend hours talking to me about material and complimenting my mind and validating me. It possibly made me overlook warning signs. This was my champion. I was never any kind of studio darling. He had a chokehold on the type of films and directors that were right for me.”
Mary J. Blige: “I didn’t know I was that beautiful for real. You understand what I’m saying? I didn’t know that.”
Shonda Rhimes: “Entertainment industry, time to stop using the phrases ‘Smart Strong Women’ and ‘Strong Female Leads.’ There are no Dumb Weak Women. A smart strong woman is just a WOMAN. Also? ‘Women’ are not a TV trend—we’re half the planet.”
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