Tuesday BARB UP July 17, 2018

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I’ve talked about women supporting each other in previous posts.  A never ending conversation. So many of us have our own troubles. We have families—whether they are our children or our elderly parents or our having to confront our dysfunctional siblings— and we have careers—some of us in cruising level, some of us being shut out (hello! Ageism)—and we have, oh, everything to deal with ourselves. Still. Sometimes your girlfriends needs YOU. Here’s a little five-point reminder of how to support your girlfriends.

  1. Lend her your ear. When your friend–the one who chose to move to the mountains and raise farm animals and has cool-ass braids and so many kids you’ve lost track of what their names are–texts you and says she’s having a bad day, do more than emoji back a sad face. Ask her what is going on. Allow her to tell you all the things she possibly can. Women need to be heard by the women they trust.
  2. Go Blondie on her and call her. Oh yes, every so often, use the phone. Hearing your voice can sometimes brighten up a day. And sometimes, just sometimes, it’s easier than texting for hours on end.
  3. Avoid getting Judge Judy-ish. Uh-huh, you know what I mean. Every so often, our lips purse in judgment. Loosen those lips, ladies. Let your friend be your friend. You may not be copacetic with her choice in partners or food groups; it doesn’t matter. She needs you, right now. Judging is not a part of the equation.
  4. Give a girl a break. Is your friend raising a daughter on her own? Does your friend somehow manage to always burn her quesadilla? Will your friend ever go deep sea diving with her boyfriend? If you have a friend that seems to need a little TLC, be her Left-Eye. Offer to watch the kid while your friend runs errands. Take her for a cuppa coffee. Take your friend for a spin class. Sometimes, when women are running their lives, they forget to take the time to breathe. They lose the ability to ask for help. Even when they’re in trouble. Be the breath of fresh air your friend needs.
  5. Bestow Treats. You know what? It’s nice to get flowers from a friend. Most of us don’t ever get a bouquet of anything. Every so often, show up to dinner with your good friend with an extra something–a Magic Wand, a box of Godiva, a pair of baby hands. That thoughtfulness? That’s a deep level of support. That goes a long way.

Aisha Tyler: “I host a feminist talk show, so we have an obligation to talk about this stuff when it comes up and talk about it with clear eyes.”

The women at the BBC are kicking ass.

The foodie METoo crusader.

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Fruits & Veggies, yummy.

This Queen trailer.

Erotica…for the feminists.

Sex stuff.

And now have a laugh with Judy Gold.


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